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Can We Just Be Friends First?
I’ve been thinking a lot lately about how fast we label things. Two people start talking, there’s some chemistry, a few good conversations happen, and suddenly everyone involved — including the two people — has decided this is either A Thing or Not A Thing. There’s no in-between anymore. No “let’s just see who this… Read more
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Turning 40: What I Didn’t Plan For, But What God Built Anyway
I turned 40 yesterday, and if you had asked me five years ago what that birthday would look like, I would have described a completely different life. A different house. A different last name, maybe. A different everything. Instead, I spent my 40th the way I spend most of my days now — showing up.… Read more
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Technology is the death of romance
As some of you may or may not know, I have been on the struggle bus of romance for most of my adult life. The past year I’ve spent pursuing someone I kept telling myself was worth it. But in reality, I should have ran away when he dumped me via text message the first… Read more
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Breaking out of the cycle
I know I haven’t written in awhile. I have had so many things on my mind to write about, but I was stuck in this cycle. This cycle of dating people who were just there to fill the void. Time-wasters. I kept trying to date the same type of person. The person that wasn’t emotionally… Read more
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You deserve the love you give
I’ve been reflecting on my past relationships and how despite even being married, I have yet to find someone who has been able to love me the same way I love them. This honestly ties back to a post I wrote in early 2019, but I still am circling around it since I’m seeing patterns… Read more
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Waiting for my unicorn
A lot of people ask me why I’m single. Why, despite everything going for me, I can’t land me a husband. Or boyfriend. Or a guy that makes it past one date if I’m being honest. It’s because I’m waiting for my unicorn. My unicorn is basically a male version of myself. I want someone… Read more
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2021: Not that 2020 won, but that we be growing
In my last post, I went over the highlights of 2020. For the record, I got that upgraded car on the last day of 2020, a Subaru Forester which has been a great addition to my single mom life with Aria. I also unexpectedly met another great addition to my life. I started texting this… Read more
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2020 Vision: Let me reintroduce myself
This year has not been the one I imagined it would be. I’m not going to lie, when 2020 started I had high hopes. I had hoped things between my daughter’s father and I would work out. I had hoped to run the Chicago marathon for the second time. I had hoped to be a… Read more
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The Color of Compromise
About six weeks ago, I joined a zoom meeting and had no idea what to expect. I was the youngest person in the meeting, and the entire meeting was uncomfortable and interesting. We watched (or listened, rather) to an episode of “The Color of Compromise” and had an open and honest discussion afterwards. I was… Read more
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